Vince and I have been married for almost 13 years and in that time, we’ve moved to 5 states, lived in 7 cities, and made a total of 10 moves! Looking at it, I really should have started my own moving company, lol. With all of those moves (for his career in medicine), I’ve had to restart almost every time. From knowing my way around the city and finding the nearest drive-thru Starbucks, to job-hunting and making new friends. To be honest with you, the first two were a touch easier than the latter. This has brought me to question: why is it so difficult to make friends at this point in life?
I’m definitely the type of person that needs fellowship with people. I am in no way a homebody. So, with each move, I put myself out there in an effort to meet new people…like awkwardly out there! LOL. I’m sure most of you know what I’m talking about, right? I swear it feels like dating…except now you have a partner, kids, and a schedule that ALL need to jive with this potential new friend and their family. Not an easy task!
At times, it can be frustrating; mostly when women are quick to judge or label you. And honestly, all I’m looking for is a good friend; someone to hang out with, shop around town, share a laugh with, and with whom I can just be myself. However as I’m writing this, I’m starting to think that this can be very hard to come by.
Now don’t get me wrong, I do have amazing friends. I’m very fortunate to have four absolute die-hard, love-them-forever, laugh-until-you-snort friends in my life. In fact, we were all maids of honor in each other’s weddings :). We’ve shared our lives with each other through memories in college, weddings, babies, and everything in between. Unfortunately, with these moves, we remain states apart and finding the time to travel and get together can be challenging, to say the least.
So, here I am in yet another new state, another great city, looking for friendship. It’s been one year and I have built some friendships. Unfortunately, some have fizzled out due to drama or judgement, while others have remained genuine and true. I think the point of my sharing this and being honest with you all, is that I am asking everyone to be kind and not judge; to reach out and make a new friend, it really shouldn’t be so difficult.
